Making Yourself More Dateable
If you've decided you're ready to date - and we're talking really ready, not just trying-to-get-over-your-ex ready - it's time to take a good hard look at yourself. Would you date you? Do you find yourself interesting? If not, read on to discover how to put your best foot forward.
Get ActiveYou don't need to lose weight, bulk up, or run yourself ragged trying to forge the body of an Olympic swimmer but if your sneakers are buried beneath a layer of dust, it might be time to get off the couch. Working out can help you to get in shape but there are also two additional benefits to hitting the gym: firstly, there's a chance you'll meet someone. And if he or she finds you attractive when you're at your sweatiest, there's a good chance they'll find you absolutely irresistible when you've finally had a chance to take a shower.
Secondly, exercise is good for you. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins and these endorphins can reduce stress, boost your self-esteem, increase your energy level and ward off feelings of depression.
If treadmills aren't your thing, consider a class: yoga, Zumba, Body Pump or even tai chi. You could also try cycling, hiking, rock climbing, kayaking, skiing or even ballroom dancing. Keep looking until you find something you enjoy and then stick with it.
SmileWhen was the last time you went to the dentist? If your answer to this question is a year or more, get moving. We're not suggesting you book yourself for a complete dental makeover (you want someone to love you for you, not your newly-bleached pearly whites) but a basic cleaning is definitely in order. Your smile is one of your greatest weapons when it comes to flirting, so make sure it's ready to go.
And don't worry if you don't have insurance. Between Groupon, Living Social and Amazon Local, you can purchase a voucher for as little as $39 in most cities.
Be CurrentIf your goal is to eventually land yourself a date, which we're assuming it is, you're going to need something to talk about on said date. And even though you might think your pug/Harley/home brewing system is the coolest thing ever, there's a chance your date might not. This means you're going to have to find some other form of common ground, and current events can be a great place to start.
No one wants to get into a political debate on their first date but you don't want to look like a moron if your date mentions the upcoming election and you don't even know who's in the running. So grab a newspaper once in a while. Or set your homepage to your news source of choice. Even if you don't have the time to read about everything that's going on in the world, you can skim the headlines at least.
ReadWhile you're busy getting up to speed on current events, don't forget to take a look at the best sellers list once in a while. You might hate Fifty Shades of Gray but there are plenty of great alternatives out there and now's a great time to expand your literary horizons. Hit the library or your local bookshop and take a look, or if you need help getting started, check out The Lifetime Reading Plan (http://lifetimereadingplan.blogspot.com/ ). Books make for great conversation starters and you don't want to get stuck fumbling for words if your date asks, "So, read anything good lately?"
Now is the time to give something new a try. You're single and you're free to do what you want so use this opportunity to become the person you've always wanted to be. With all of your newfound interests and hobbies, you'll have a much better chance attracting the person you've always wanted to be with.
- Take a look in the mirror. Ask yourself if you would date you. For extra credit, ask a close friend if they would date you. If not, it's time to introduce a few changes into your life.
- Hit the gym. Or the park, or the rock wall, or whatever it is that floats your boat. If you hate it, try something else and if you still hate it, stick with it until you start to enjoy physical activity and all of the related benefits. Commit to a realistic schedule given your lifestyle but still challenging.
- Clean up your act - in particular, your teeth. Book your next cleaning now.
- Pay attention. Grab a new book and commit to reading the paper at least three times a week if you don't already. Set your homepage to display the day's news highlights if you're pressed for time.
Once you've gotten started, you'll be well on your way to becoming an interesting and intriguing individual - exactly the sort of person that you (and most people) would like to date.
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